Checking in- How are you?
I feel like it’s been a while since we just gisted. So how about today?
How are you, how have you been? I feel like it’s been a while since we just gisted. So how about today? NOW that April is wrapping up (just as fast as it arrived), how about a pulse check? What’s your take on the year so far? Good, Bad, Mid? Are we still proceeding with caution?
One of the things that has humbled me about life is just as much as really amazing things could be happening in one person’s life, the next person could be having the worst nightmare of a year. Why can’t we all just be happy at the same time? (This question is for YOU God...
Anyway, as we head into the best month of the year (iykyk.. actually f that, you all should know - Kunbi month!), I wanted to check in and see how you are doing? What are your plans for the month of May? What are your prayers if you’re willing to share? Also, what are you planning to do for YOU this month? Because one thing that has been consistent in my heart this year is doing the YOU things. This is your YEAR and regardless of what comes… we’re leaving here with SOMETHING. Period!
So, what’s this year looking like for you? What do you want it to look like given where you are right now? It’s best for us to call it forward o.
Last week we returned from Nigeria, and I have been a zombie all week. TBH, today is the first day I’m feeling a bit more settled. I don’t know if it was me detoxing from the fun or the freaking jet lag, but ba-by, last week was for reconfiguration. Anyway, I’m back. I have so much to share from my quick trip home, but that’s for another Konfessional. This one is for checking in.
Speaking of checking in, how are you liking the KOnfessionals? I know I said I struggle with criticism, lmao, but tell me, are you connecting with them? I’m just going as the spirit leads. Anything you want to see more of? Tell meeee.
While you’re thinking, though, I have two friendly reminders for you this week:
Share Your Story
I shared my infertility story for National Infertility Awareness Week, and as usual, I felt like a broken record or a little less qualified to speak on it now that I have children. Lies I tell myself. It just reminded me how important your story is and how it could be the difference in someone’s life. In fact, I woke up yesterday feeling this strongly and shared in my stories (listen below).
We really need to remember that as much as our experiences in the moment are individual, someone else is going to go through it and may need that push. What you’ve been through could help someone else push through. Your story could be the very thing that shows someone that it’s possible. Even if you don’t have all the answers, even if you feel like you’ve said it a million times, there’s someone out there who needs to hear it one more time. Keep sharing. It makes a difference.
Share Your Self
Listen, this one’s for my over-humble girlies. I just need to quickly remind you that in the year of our Lord 2025, closed mouths STILL ain’t getting fed. Share your shit. Share your crafts, share your wins, share your excellence. Hype yo self.
Last week I shared two speaking engagements I have next month in my stories, and guess what? Someone else who hadn’t considered me decided to reach out and invite me to speak elsewhere. Humility? Gentility? Or whatever the hell Wande Coal said—talk yo shit… respectfully.
This is the Year of ______ (insert your name here) and I need you to act like it. One of my bestest friends is a big dog at a major nonprofit in the US (the one that fights for our liberties, ahem), and sometimes I have to bark at her to occupy her space because she is small in physical size only—small girl, big babe. Period!
Anyway, take this as me physically yelling at all of you. This is SPARTA! (10 points for anyone who gets this reference).
You are who tf you say you are. So own it! WHEW! I think that’s enough for today. I drafted this in one sitting, by the way, so I’m sure it’s a lot of rambling, but I love and appreciate you guys and hope we can all have a SOLID, fruitful, HAPPY week.
Until next week!
Kunbi
I’m ok! How are you too?
Yep, absolutely important to share your story! I remember I just got diagnosed with endometriosis and was waiting for surgery when you shared your ‘Ore’ story. When you said you felt led to share the story before having Ore…I actually felt you had that urge just for me. There was a year in my life I used to read that story monthly to hold to hope.
There is so much power in sharing and reading other people’s stories.
Prayer point: still on it - to get pregnant and have a bab(ies).
What I love about your newsletter is how conversational it is. Feels like I'm just gisting with a friend. I have to save a lot of the newsletters I'm subscribed to and read when I have brain space, but I always open yours as soon as I see it because it's always easy to read.
And girl, now that I'm on substack...you deserve an award for your consistency. I'm just on week 3 and this is actually discipline 😂